Invite us

Do you want to make a difference in my life? Here's a (somewhat) simple way. Invite us. Invite us to hang out. Invite us to your party. Invite us go for coffee. Invite us to your house. Invite us to the park. Invite us for a walk. Don't invite me. Invite us.

Now this does mean that you have to then deal with us. You might have to have the talk with your kids about how some people have health conditions that mean they can't help swearing, and that doesn't mean they can. This means it might take us a lot longer to get into and out of places. It may mean that we walk up to strangers. It may mean that we travel slowly. It may mean that my conversations with you will be divided and interrupted.

It will also mean, though, that you care about us. It will mean that you care about me. See she is an integral part of my life, in the same way that your children are an integral part of yours. Just as you sometimes need time away, so do I. So the odd solo girls night out is great, and appreciate din its own way. If you want me to go out with you more often though, invite us. When I tell you that I can't go because I'm on duty, don't back off and give up. Invite us. When all of the girls are going out, and you are leaving your kids with babysitters and pooling care, don't tell me how much you'll miss me. Invite us- or ask if you can help me find someone to keep an eye on her.

It kind of bothers me, sometimes, when you won't invite us, sometimes it might seem as if you don't want to be around her, as if she bothers you. Think about this one- how would you feel if I always told you that if your kid had to come along we couldn't hang out, if you told me you didn't have a sitter plans always canceled.

Don't drop our plans. Don't assume we are growing apart.

Don't invite me. Invite us.